1.
Not
every girl wants to get married by 23. So before you ASSUME she's of
marriageable age, ask her what her views on marriage are. One hint, might save you the drama- just because she does not
want to get married now does not mean she never will. She has other plans for
herself right now, let her live a little.
2. Just because a girl
wishes to do her PhD after Masters does not mean she doesn't want to settle
down in life. Give her a break, and respect the fact that she has the
confidence to take that up, cos yeah, PhD is no joke. There will come a point
when she would happily devote herself to her family, and balance it out with
her work life. Her degrees, or lack of them, won't make any difference. Let her
study while she wants to, okay?
3. Just because she is
27 and unmarried does not mean she's been rejected by many men. Maybe, being
single is a choice she has made.
4.
Having a boyfriend
does not make her characterless.
5.
Just because she has
recently gone through a break up doesn't mean she is vulnerable and available.
6. Just because most of
her friends are boys, does not mean she is "having a good time" with
all of them.
7.
Just because she has
a drink in her hand does not mean she is an alcoholic.
8.
Just because she
wore a short skirt to one party does not mean she dresses up that way every
day.
9.
Just because she is
ambitious doesn't mean she isn't a family person.
10. Just
because she doesn't discuss her plans doesn't mean she's clueless about life.
Give her a chance, alright?
11. Just
because she is outspoken doesn't mean she is a rebel.
12. Just
because she comes home late from work does not mean she is sleeping around with
her colleagues.
13. After
a hectic week, give her some time to relax over the weekend. Don't make that
one weekend party make her look like a she's a frivolous party-girl without a
job.
14. Just
because she is out shopping alone does not mean she is depressed or lonely.
It's how she relaxes, respect that.
15. Just
because she is on a holiday alone does not mean she doesn't have company. Maybe
it's a break to get back her lost confidence, or maybe that's how she is.
Admire her spirit instead of giving her advice, okay?
16. Just
because she is a woman doesn't mean she can't kick ass in military school.
17. Just
because she has a tattoo doesn't mean she is attention seeking. Maybe that's her
way of expression.
18. Just
because she doesn't know how to cook doesn't mean she won't make a good wife.
Remember when you were just married and cooked chicken curry which was um, a
disaster?
19. Just
because she likes everything pink and shiny and fluffy doesn't mean she lives
in her own world. She can handle some situations much better than her male
counterparts.
20. Just
because she is pretty does not mean she is a whore. And just because she is
friendly does not mean she is flirting with you.
Yes,
we cry, we are emotional; we take things personally, and sometimes over-react
to situations. But this does not give any one the right to judge us in the
wrong way. Times are changing; don't confine her within those boundaries, no
matter how orthodox you are. There are some who might be fighting this losing
battle, yet compromising on their decisions and plans, just to please society.
Respect!
By Kanitha Kan
Credit to Womansera
